We can all relate to the feeling of crawling into a bed with clean sheets, right? Let me paint another picture for you. You sit down after a long day on the couch in your living room. The couch is absent of laundry and clutter, the furniture is dust free, there are no dishes accumulating on the coffee table or dog hair floating in the air. The kid’s toys are in their place. For a few moments you are in a quiet room free of the chaos that has been your day. You may even hear birds chirping. Doesn’t this sound heavenly?
Now, let’s talk reality. No kids yet, but we do have a puppy. Most days when I journey to my couch in the evening I have to walk across what we call Echo’s lair. The pathway requires me to walk over tennis balls, shredded ‘former’ animal toys, bone shrapnel and remnants of whatever laundry he has smuggled out of the laundry room (or off of the couch) and shredded on the floor.
Now, my husband has this supernatural power called compartmentalizing that I believe all women lack. He walks over Echo’s lair and sits on the couch, looks out the window and lets out a sigh. I’m thinking, “How on Earth can he relax in this mess?” and promptly get out the broom and begin sweeping.
My husband often tells me to forget the mess and to just come sit with him. While I love and appreciate this about him I have to tell you it is something that I struggle to do. When the house is in disarray I cannot relax. He is able to overlook things that drive me crazy. On the other hand, when the house is clean he always notices, he always comments on how peaceful our home feels and thanks me for keeping it so comfortable. My husband may genuinely mean that “it’s not a big deal” or tell me to “forget about the mess” but I know how much happier he is when our home feels like a haven. I do believe we are called to keep our homes in order and to prepare a place that our husband actually wants to be.
“She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27
Take time for the truly important moments with your husband and children but remember that everyone enjoys a clean home.
It’s a balance so choose priorities. Making sure the dishes are clean is important and should probably be taken care of each evening before sitting down; however, organizing the pantry can probably wait if it means losing valuable time with your husband. Choose what works best for you but spending time with your spouse should not be at the end of your endless to do list.